The Relationship Thread

[Thedude]

Yes I trust her guys. It's more not telling me of plans she made several days before. She can do what she wants, but just include me in your life please.

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I am constantly getting in trouble for this. I don't mean to. It's just that for some reason it's not on the front of my mind to bring up certain things. Could be something simple like taking the car in for service or maybe seeing a friends band play and I'll make the plans and just not think to bring it up.

[NEEK]

Yes I trust her guys. It's more not telling me of plans she made several days before. She can do what she wants, but just include me in your life please.

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That's a fair request.

She's very independent, and it causes some issues. She's used to it because she hasn't lived with anyone in a long time. Problem is, I've mentioned this before. She also doesn't want the whole FB status change or even me tagging her. Yes, FB is silly. But it's how a lot of people keep up on your life. Just odd to me.

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[Melon]

That's a tough transition for people to make. Give her some time, and make suggestions along the way to help communicate what things you would like to be clued in on.

[Thedude]

On the other hand... she'll make plans weeks and months in advance and tell me about it right away and I'll forget because I am usually just nodding my head and letting her talk without making a mental note because I immediately put what she is saying into the "doesn't really concern me" bucket.

This bites me in the ass, too.

[Melon]

On the other hand... she'll make plans weeks and months in advance and tell me about it right away and I'll forget because I am usually just nodding my head and letting her talk without making a mental note because I immediately put what she is saying into the "doesn't really concern me" bucket.

This bites me in the ass, too.

I have to write it down.

[NEEK]

Yes I trust her guys. It's more not telling me of plans she made several days before. She can do what she wants, but just include me in your life please.

Currently on FAPatalk

I am constantly getting in trouble for this. I don't mean to. It's just that for some reason it's not on the front of my mind to bring up certain things. Could be something simple like taking the car in for service or maybe seeing a friends band play and I'll make the plans and just not think to bring it up.

Funny thing is she said her friend would do it Monday or Tuesday. When she told me that I said to let me know when and she said she would....

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[NEEK]

That's a tough transition for people to make. Give her some time, and make suggestions along the way to help communicate what things you would like to be clued in on.

I have been.

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[goIftdibrad]

http://thefederalist.com/2016/11/30/don ... -marriage/

good advice is good

[ChrisoftheNorth]

http://thefederalist.com/2016/11/30/don ... -marriage/

good advice is good

Aaaaaand they're also members of a church that advocate gay conversion therapy.

[ChrisoftheNorth]

Infamous loves that show too.

[goIftdibrad]

http://thefederalist.com/2016/11/30/don ... -marriage/

good advice is good

Aaaaaand they're also members of a church that advocate gay conversion therapy.

[4zilch]

I just rely on @sno to be my social planner.

[Calvinball]

Took me a very long time to learn this one

I'm still learning this one.

I haven't really begun.

[Calvinball]

I just rely on @sno to be my social planner.

[Johnny_P]

On the other hand... she'll make plans weeks and months in advance and tell me about it right away and I'll forget because I am usually just nodding my head and letting her talk without making a mental note because I immediately put what she is saying into the "doesn't really concern me" bucket.

This bites me in the ass, too.

I constantly get in trouble for this

[Johnny_P]

On the other hand... she'll make plans weeks and months in advance and tell me about it right away and I'll forget because I am usually just nodding my head and letting her talk without making a mental note because I immediately put what she is saying into the "doesn't really concern me" bucket.

This bites me in the ass, too.

Welcome to my life.

To help fix this issue, we shared calendars with one another - and I see her calendar on my calendar.

Now, if I want to schedule something, I can see when she's free or not.

We shared google calendars too
Problem is I don't look at mine

[Desertbreh]

Yes I trust her guys. It's more not telling me of plans she made several days before. She can do what she wants, but just include me in your life please.

Currently on FAPatalk

I am constantly getting in trouble for this. I don't mean to. It's just that for some reason it's not on the front of my mind to bring up certain things. Could be something simple like taking the car in for service or maybe seeing a friends band play and I'll make the plans and just not think to bring it up.

Classic male issue. Interesting that it is getting reversed on NEEK.

[Desertbreh]

On the other hand... she'll make plans weeks and months in advance and tell me about it right away and I'll forget because I am usually just nodding my head and letting her talk without making a mental note because I immediately put what she is saying into the "doesn't really concern me" bucket.

This bites me in the ass, too.

Classic Male Issue #2. Such normal, much dudebro.

[Desertbreh]

I just rely on @sno to be my social planner.

Bulletproof tactical planning. You're the Navy SEAL of relationship scheduling.

[Melon]

We shared google calendars too
Problem is I don't look at mine

I put everything on my calendar anymore - because I even forget my own stuff.

That's a great idea, too bad I can never get Jessi to use Google Calendars.

[Melon]

That's a great idea, too bad I can never get Jessi to use Google Calendars.

I feel like it's something that you both would benefit bigly from.

[goIftdibrad]

I put everything on my calendar anymore - because I even forget my own stuff.

That's a great idea, too bad I can never get Jessi to use Google Calendars.

i set up kellie, i put in my own events, even if she wont use it she will get notifications about my shit.

[Johnny_P]

On the other hand... she'll make plans weeks and months in advance and tell me about it right away and I'll forget because I am usually just nodding my head and letting her talk without making a mental note because I immediately put what she is saying into the "doesn't really concern me" bucket.

This bites me in the ass, too.

Classic Male Issue #2. Such normal, much dudebro.

Me: You didn't tell me that.
Her: I told you that an hour ago!!!!
Me: No you didn't.
Her:

[Johnny_P]

We shared google calendars too
Problem is I don't look at mine

I put everything on my calendar anymore - because I even forget my own stuff.

I bought a calendar for the kitchen because old school dinosaur.

It's titled Yoga Dogs. lol. Dogs doing yoga poses.

No seriously though I don't check the online calendar at all. Ever. Because her calendar is so fucked up I can't even.

[troyguitar]

We have shared google calendars, a shared google doc grocery/errand list, shared checking acct, shared budget docs, shared wedding planning docs, joint gmail acct, etc.

Everything is super simple and transparent.