Detroit wrote: ↑Tue Jan 12, 2021 3:20 pm
You get it. I just need to and get through it.
Every marriage is different, but purposefully castrating yourself from your interests for a spouse just leads to resentment. That isn't healthy.
Thankfully I'm married to someone who understands this (and comments against cuckery like men giving up driving for their women). She may be unable and unwilling to fill the soap, but she at least understands I need my me time.
It hasn't been an issue until recently. I think we're just getting on each other's nerves being together 24/7, and everything I do is to her and vice versa. She's less reasonable lately than she has been in the past...but from her POV, she can't go anywhere or do anything she likes to do, so neither should I? I dunno...we're in weird unprecedented times.
Once she can be social again, she'll go back to being chill. In fact, I'm glad she's going to visit her family on her own for a few weeks, I think that will do a lot of good. I'm doing my bike shopping during that time for sure.
Desertbreh wrote: ↑Tue Oct 10, 2017 6:40 pm
My guess would be that Chris took some time off because he has read the dialogue on this page 1,345 times and decided to spend some of his free time doing something besides beating a horse to death.
Detroit wrote: ↑Tue Jan 12, 2021 3:20 pm
You get it. I just need to and get through it.
Every marriage is different, but purposefully castrating yourself from your interests for a spouse just leads to resentment. That isn't healthy.
Thankfully I'm married to someone who understands this (and comments against cuckery like men giving up driving for their women). She may be unable and unwilling to fill the soap, but she at least understands I need my me time.
Ultimately you are always going to be you, I'm always going to be me. Pushing down who we are isn't something that's healthy over the long haul.
Tarspin wrote: ↑Tue Jan 12, 2021 4:01 pm
I tell my wife to :chillthefuckout: about my hobbies. We fight , but everyone has a right to their own free time. The above behaviors trigger the fuck out of me. 5/7 am a once in a lifetime marriage type person.
In defense of the , Chris and I probably both knew this about them going in. My wife is fairly supportive of things, she never complains about me spending money on track shit or the like and mostly enjoys some time apart. It is always a balancing act though, fortunately she has her own friends and they normally do things. She also is into her work a bit more than I am. It has been interesting transitioning into fully disclosing my spending and stuff, but so far so good.
It is crazy times, everyone is a bit extra everything. I'm not judging, my wife suffers from major depression issues and I live a life of eggshells everywhere. If anything, I'm probably in deeper shit then most here when it comes to the relationshit front, or at least it seems that way through my lenses.
Eh, I’d pass on that. An Advanced 0 in 2018 originally was spec’d with SRAM X01, carbon wheels, a Rockshox Pike and Super Deluxe, SRAM Guide RSCs...
This things been stripped down and replaced with a bunch of mid level parts from a $2k bike as opposed to the $9k bike it was new.
Cool, I thought so too. Shame, it's hard to find XL bikes.
Desertbreh wrote: ↑Tue Oct 10, 2017 6:40 pm
My guess would be that Chris took some time off because he has read the dialogue on this page 1,345 times and decided to spend some of his free time doing something besides beating a horse to death.
It is crazy times, everyone is a bit extra everything. I'm not judging, my wife suffers from major depression issues and I live a life of eggshells everywhere. If anything, I'm probably in deeper shit then most here when it comes to the relationshit front, or at least it seems that way through my lenses.
I’m right there with you. She’s got depression and anxiety through the floor and roof.
It’s a fun rollercoaster.
I wonder if depression rates are higher in women then men, and higher then in the past? It seems like so many more of them are having trouble with it. Sorry to hear, it really does make things "exciting", never know if we're heading up or down around the next turn.
I’m right there with you. She’s got depression and anxiety through the floor and roof.
It’s a fun rollercoaster.
I wonder if depression rates are higher in women then men, and higher then in the past? It seems like so many more of them are having trouble with it. Sorry to hear, it really does make things "exciting", never know if we're heading up or down around the next turn.
I've had a bit of depression here and there during COVID but it may be that more women suffer from it. I am certainly the more easy going in my marriage as well. My wife occasionally has some pretty wild mood swings and gets angry about things, but to her credit, she is amazing at recognizing these sorts of issues and at least working to fix them. She grew up in a shit family with no support and pretty much raised herself, so I have to give a lot of credit when I was a typical middle class kid with both parents at home and all that.
I wonder if depression rates are higher in women then men, and higher then in the past? It seems like so many more of them are having trouble with it. Sorry to hear, it really does make things "exciting", never know if we're heading up or down around the next turn.
and the GOP’s war against things that aren’t white and male has not helped one bit.
One more week and things may start to slowly look up a bit!
I wonder if depression rates are higher in women then men, and higher then in the past? It seems like so many more of them are having trouble with it. Sorry to hear, it really does make things "exciting", never know if we're heading up or down around the next turn.
I've had a bit of depression here and there during COVID but it may be that more women suffer from it. I am certainly the more easy going in my marriage as well. My wife occasionally has some pretty wild mood swings and gets angry about things, but to her credit, she is amazing at recognizing these sorts of issues and at least working to fix them. She grew up in a shit family with no support and pretty much raised herself, so I have to give a lot of credit when I was a typical middle class kid with both parents at home and all that.
Mine grew up in a very happy family setting with good parents, but can be pretty thorny when she is feeling terrible. It all started as post partem and she's not out of the woods yet. We have been working with a naturopathic specialist to adjust her diet and add supplements that she may be missing, or help her gluteal phase. TBH, it has helped significantly.
I've had a bit of depression here and there during COVID but it may be that more women suffer from it. I am certainly the more easy going in my marriage as well. My wife occasionally has some pretty wild mood swings and gets angry about things, but to her credit, she is amazing at recognizing these sorts of issues and at least working to fix them. She grew up in a shit family with no support and pretty much raised herself, so I have to give a lot of credit when I was a typical middle class kid with both parents at home and all that.
Mine grew up in a very happy family setting with good parents, but can be pretty thorny when she is feeling terrible. It all started as post partem and she's not out of the woods yet. We have been working with a naturopathic specialist to adjust her diet and add supplements that she may be missing, or help her gluteal phase. TBH, it has helped significantly.
That is pretty awesome, certainly sounds preferable to chemicals/drugs!
Mine grew up in a very happy family setting with good parents, but can be pretty thorny when she is feeling terrible. It all started as post partem and she's not out of the woods yet. We have been working with a naturopathic specialist to adjust her diet and add supplements that she may be missing, or help her gluteal phase. TBH, it has helped significantly.
That is pretty awesome, certainly sounds preferable to chemicals/drugs!
Yep, my gal is completely off of SSRIs, and I think she's easier to deal with since they pull on her harder then her own ups and downs. 5/7 recommend going this route for anyone who is struggling with prescribed chems.
Cruising in that thing up and down M37 on Old Mission fixing bikes would certainly be attention grabbing. Probably dream job status TBH.
Desertbreh wrote: ↑Tue Oct 10, 2017 6:40 pm
My guess would be that Chris took some time off because he has read the dialogue on this page 1,345 times and decided to spend some of his free time doing something besides beating a horse to death.
Detroit wrote: ↑Thu Jan 14, 2021 5:41 pm
Cruising in that thing up and down M37 on Old Mission fixing bikes would certainly be attention grabbing. Probably dream job status TBH.
Would be epic.
Especially with a real engine under the hood for the lulz.
In my weird dream scenario, I think I'd make it electric...
Desertbreh wrote: ↑Tue Oct 10, 2017 6:40 pm
My guess would be that Chris took some time off because he has read the dialogue on this page 1,345 times and decided to spend some of his free time doing something besides beating a horse to death.
Especially with a real engine under the hood for the lulz.
In my weird dream scenario, I think I'd make it electric...
That would be the move, otherwise you'd be stuck repairing your more than getting paid to work on bikes. I also think cyclists in general are more about electric. It is funny, on the group rides out in the country down here, everyone seems to get by any car with a loud exhaust and I am just pedaling in the back trying to hide my secret
I am losing steam a little bit on winter riding. I miss having time in the morning for longer rides, but it's miserably cold, and lately seems really cloudy. It is nice and sunny in the afternoon, but I can't get away from work for very long.
I've been running more as it is far more pleasant in weather.
Detroit wrote: ↑Fri Jan 15, 2021 8:40 am
In my weird dream scenario, I think I'd make it electric...
That would be the move, otherwise you'd be stuck repairing your more than getting paid to work on bikes. I also think cyclists in general are more about electric. It is funny, on the group rides out in the country down here, everyone seems to get by any car with a loud exhaust and I am just pedaling in the back trying to hide my secret
Weird, I'd rather hear the cars coming then be surprised by some whistling by while posting their new watch on the 'gram.
I can see the appreciation for a zero emission vehicle while riding a road bicycle and/or jogging
Detroit wrote: ↑Tue Jan 12, 2021 3:20 pm
You get it. I just need to and get through it.
Every marriage is different, but purposefully castrating yourself from your interests for a spouse just leads to resentment. That isn't healthy.
Thankfully I'm married to someone who understands this (and comments against cuckery like men giving up driving for their women). She may be unable and unwilling to fill the soap, but she at least understands I need my me time.
She's just unwilling. We're all able to fill the soap.
Detroit wrote:Buy 911s instead of diamonds.
Johnny_P wrote: ↑Thu Feb 09, 2023 3:21 pm
Earn it and burn it, Val.
max225 wrote: ↑Mon May 01, 2023 5:35 pm
Yes it's a cool car. But prepare the lube/sawdust.
D Griff wrote: ↑Fri Jan 15, 2021 12:00 pm
The worst here is the people who pass really close by and floor it right as they are beside me, almost always a V8 full size
for their women). She may be unable and unwilling to fill the soap, but she at least understands I need my me time.
and get through it.
to her and vice versa. She's less reasonable lately than she has been in the past...but from her POV, she can't go anywhere or do anything she likes to do, so neither should I? I dunno...we're in weird unprecedented times.
, but everyone has a right to their own free time. The above behaviors trigger the fuck out of me. 5/7 am a once in a lifetime marriage type person.
, Chris and I probably both knew this about them going in. My wife is fairly supportive of things, she never complains about me spending money on track shit or the like and mostly enjoys some time apart. It is always a balancing act though, fortunately she has her own friends and they normally do things. She also is into her work a bit more than I am. It has been interesting transitioning into fully disclosing my spending and stuff, but so far so good.
facts to pull out of the back of your head and good call out!
I've had a bit of depression here and there during COVID but it may be that more women suffer from it. I am certainly the more easy going in my marriage as well. My wife occasionally has some pretty wild mood swings and gets angry about things, but to her credit, she is amazing at recognizing these sorts of issues and at least working to fix them. She grew up in a shit family with no support and pretty much raised herself, so I have to give a lot of credit when I was a typical middle class kid with both parents at home and all that.
and the GOP’s war against things that aren’t white and male has not helped one bit.
carboner frame, I don't want to 
it.
by any car with a loud exhaust and I am just pedaling in the back trying to hide my secret 
that I can't go to my namesake deli. 
weather.
whistling by while posting their new watch on the 'gram. 
