Yeah man, I hear you on all of these issues.
I got the bike for my wife because I thought it would be a cool thing we could do together... well, she doesn't like cycling "for exercise" (even though she loves indoor cycling for exercise) and so it's painfully slow rides only, and only when it's sunny and 75-85F. She wouldn't hear of getting a road bike and so her bike is heavy and slow.
Like your wife, mine is an extrovert (probably not quite as severely) and so she wants me to always be a part of things she's doing, whereas I'm totally happy to go ride my bike alone for hours.
It sounds like once vaccines are available and Infamous can get out in the world more, it will be easier. I understand her perspective, this shit sucks, particularly for those who thrive on going out, chatting with people, etc.
It's too bad she didn't get the winery gig, she would be working when you were off sometimes to free up your time a bit. Plus it would be very social which would be good. It's also for the best to be at home now though, so
I suspect the car reservations are probably more about your dedication of time as well.
Relationships... they are hard.