I've learned over the past few years that this is one of the toughest parts of a relationshit. Everyone has totally different goals and values, your number one value (or one of them now) is your career, and you'd sacrifice other things there. Her's is obviously family, familiarity, etc. It's especially interesting as we all change over time, so someone can also end up feeling a way you least expect.razr390 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 18, 2018 8:08 amShe has this singing app that she meets people across the world and they sing and have group chats and stuff, kinda like we have DFD for car talk and whatnot. It’s pretty 5/7
Tbh, I don’t really care for DC either. I barely go into DC. Only time I do is when I have friends/family visit me (roads suck, parking sucks, etc.)
I am not really a fan of the whole rat race mentality that I see here. Lots of people in a hurry to get nowhere.
That being said, I will follow my career path and trajectory wherever it may take me. I am pretty adaptable. She isn’t. She’s more of a homebody who is comfortable with the way things are. Not necessarily a bad thing but “too much” going on makes her nervous and anxious. I really and I thrive under pressure.
We shall see
Ultimately, you and her will both have to compromise, or become single and move on.
If I was single I honestly would've pursued the job with my company in Los Angeles earlier this year. Objectively, it would've been a bad choice, leaving me with a much lower effective income, not really knowing anyone... Allison was on it (for really good reasons, and she did consider it, but once we looked into it, didn't make any sense), so I gave that up. Now, I'm starting a new job I'm not really excited about, but it will pay a lot more, makes sense for my career growth (I hope), and so it's a compromise for me, but I get that objectively it was the right move.
These things really kind of suck to deal with and can be quite hard, but it all works out.