Yeah I was trying to update it and honestly there are so many small custom touches and stuff that I don’t think I could ever accurately list it all. I kind of want to go line by line and look up and add up the cost to get a rough ball park on the total amount invested, but I'm not sure its number I want to see. And honestly, its really had no meaningful financial impact and I put it all to good use reguarly. All in all, the memories for myself and my son are worth the price of admission.
Do I dare sell the 4Runner?!
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Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck no. I miss every Bears and Blackhawks game being televised, beyond that I dont even want to go back to visit.
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Looks like a hobby to me essentially. They are never cheap or “make sense” financially but if you get joy out of it that’s what matters. Hell people go to track days and light 1000-3000 on fire every time they do. So it is what it is. Money is money YoloDbest wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:59 pmYeah I was trying to updating an honestly theres so many small custom touches and stuff that I dont think I could ever accurately list it all. I kind of want to go line by line and look up and add up the cost so get a rough ball park on the total amount invested but I'm not sure its number I want to see and honestly, its really had no meaningful financial impact nad I put it all to good use reguarly. All in all the memories for myself and my son are worth the price of admission.
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Inquiring dirty old minds want to know...
Replacement or additional ones?
Heir to the throne?
Replacement or additional ones?
Heir to the throne?
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Both I guess.... Long story short(ish) - she grew up a religious small town girl, the wait for marriage type. So we did, and it quickly became very apparent that we were not on the same page in the physical aspect. In fact we were totally on the opposite ends of the spectrum in the sense that she would perfectly content living out her days more or less as a best friend and roommate. She got the kids she wanted and she was perfectly happy with that. Over the years it hadn't naturally progressed or improved so we had a big sit down talk about it. For waaaaaay to long it was more of the same, so I finally decieded I had enough. I want to share my life with a significant other, not a best friend/roommate. I'm happy to be done and moving on but she's upset about all of it. We've been married 9.5 years and the first big discussion about all this happened about 7.5 years ago and now, for the first time, she finally wanted to try consiling and to see if we get it to a point that it's tolerable enough to keep me around. The time to start trying to work on it has long passed, especially knowing there is zero chance she can force herself to change enough to be what I want in my life, and quite frankly she shouldn't have to. Plus there's definitely a bit of resentment over the fact that I neer wante to have a second kid, in fact I was adamantly against it, but I let her her constant fucking whining and crying guilt me into it. She's a wonderful mother and a great person, she's just not my person. Still in the divorce process.
All in all I don't think anyone should get married prior to their 30's, you're too young and dumb and you're still learning who you are and what you want.
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Good on you recognizing it and doing something about it.... Part of me wishes I would have, the other part doesn't know what I'd do without her. But make no mistake, I faced exactly the same issue and staying exacerbated my alcoholism and now we are soon facing an empty nest.....guess we will find out whether we can become man and woman again instead of best friends/co-parents.... I give it 50/50 .....
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In my opinion, yes, upgrade. I've had years and years to think about everything I'd want in the perfect partner. This girl kinda just fell into my lap, I figured shes 100% spot on my vision of physically ideal, so I asked her out. I was fully expecting to get shot down since shes way out of my league, but she said yes, and it went better than I ever could have imagined. Somehow she checks off every single item on the impossibly long list in my head.
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Dbest wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 2:35 pmIn my opinion, yes, upgrade. I've had years and years to think about everything I'd want in the perfect partner. This girl kinda just fell into my lap, I figured shes 100% spot on my vision of physically ideal, so I asked her out. I was fully expecting to get shot down since shes way out of my league, but she said yes, and it went better than I ever could have imagined. Somehow she checks off every single item on the impossibly long list in my head.
Good luck! Glad to see you noticed the differences in the prior relationship and are working on a better
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Its a hard thing to do for sure. There's no question we lived a nice life. A nice house in a nice neighborhood with panoramic mountain views surrounded by paved and dirt trails. We both make great money. The house is on pace to paid off before my now 5 year old graduates high school. We have a well above average nest egg invested towards retiring early. We can do and by what we want (within reason) without worrying about the financial impact. Plus we got along very well. It was a good comfortable life and the hardest thing I've ever done was choosing to walk from it, her, half of everything I own, half my time with my boys, and realisticly with the amount of travel I do - my career. Its hard to just throw it all away and risk everything just for the possibility of being truly happy one day. I decided it was worth the risk.Irish wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 2:33 pm Good on you recognizing it and doing something about it.... Part of me wishes I would have, the other part doesn't know what I'd do without her. But make no mistake, I faced exactly the same issue and staying exacerbated my alcoholism and now we are soon facing an empty nest.....guess we will find out whether we can become man and woman again instead of best friends/co-parents.... I give it 50/50 .....
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Wow. What small town did she grow up in? I assume in Illinois?Dbest wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 2:26 pmBoth I guess.... Long story short(ish) - she grew up a religious small town girl, the wait for marriage type. So we did, and it quickly became very apparent that we were not on the same page in the physical aspect. In fact we were totally on the opposite ends of the spectrum in the sense that she would perfectly content living out her days more or less as a best friend and roommate. She got the kids she wanted and she was perfectly happy with that. Over the years it hadn't naturally progressed or improved so we had a big sit down talk about it. For waaaaaay to long it was more of the same, so I finally decieded I had enough. I want to share my life with a significant other, not a best friend/roommate. I'm happy to be done and moving on but she's upset about all of it. We've been married 9.5 years and the first big discussion about all this happened about 7.5 years ago and now, for the first time, she finally wanted to try consiling and to see if we get it to a point that it's tolerable enough to keep me around. The time to start trying to work on it has long passed, especially knowing there is zero chance she can force herself to change enough to be what I want in my life, and quite frankly she shouldn't have to. Plus there's definitely a bit of resentment over the fact that I neer wante to have a second kid, in fact I was adamantly against it, but I let her her constant fucking whining and crying guilt me into it. She's a wonderful mother and a great person, she's just not my person. Still in the divorce process.
All in all I don't think anyone should get married prior to their 30's, you're too young and dumb and you're still learning who you are and what you want.
That was a y move on your part. Hope it all works out for you and your kids.
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I feel you, brother...Irish wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 2:33 pm Good on you recognizing it and doing something about it.... Part of me wishes I would have, the other part doesn't know what I'd do without her. But make no mistake, I faced exactly the same issue and staying exacerbated my alcoholism and now we are soon facing an empty nest.....guess we will find out whether we can become man and woman again instead of best friends/co-parents.... I give it 50/50 .....
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fo' sho'Dbest wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 2:35 pmIn my opinion, yes, upgrade. I've had years and years to think about everything I'd want in the perfect partner. This girl kinda just fell into my lap, I figured shes 100% spot on my vision of physically ideal, so I asked her out. I was fully expecting to get shot down since shes way out of my league, but she said yes, and it went better than I ever could have imagined. Somehow she checks off every single item on the impossibly long list in my head.
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Dat doe!!!wap wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 3:08 pmfo' sho'Dbest wrote: ↑Fri Jun 11, 2021 2:35 pm
In my opinion, yes, upgrade. I've had years and years to think about everything I'd want in the perfect partner. This girl kinda just fell into my lap, I figured shes 100% spot on my vision of physically ideal, so I asked her out. I was fully expecting to get shot down since shes way out of my league, but she said yes, and it went better than I ever could have imagined. Somehow she checks off every single item on the impossibly long list in my head.
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