razr390 wrote: ↑Wed Nov 18, 2020 3:37 pm
Detroit wrote: ↑Wed Nov 18, 2020 12:05 pm
No way they make more, they're just ok saving nothing or even less than nothing. I don't understand.
This is a huge part of my existential crisis. Looking around at people my age they don’t OWN anything. We rent because of circumstance, but I am also throwing money at 401k, I have company provided healthcare, I invest and save a bit (even though I wish I could be doing better).
People here buy houses 4 ways, have a $900 car note, and work for $9-12/hour.
It’s fucking mind boggling. While I don’t mean to “put people down” I also can’t avoid the

feeling I get when a bunch of my generation reach 30-40 years old and realize they haven’t done shit for themselves and now want everyone else to pay for it.
Fuck. That.
I'm not sure this is a generational thing as much as it's a life stages thing. I remember people going nuts at that age with reckless abandon. They either figure it out or don't. The key, as always, is to live at or preferably below your means always. I bought my first house at 28, and it was on the low side of our budget in a pretty crappy area of Detroit. Wife found a job, I got a raise, we moved up. Another raise, we moved up again.
But to bring this back to the point of this thread...the hardest trap to not fall into is the constant drive for more and better and whatnot. We did it with our house in the city, then the wife lost her job, I got a pay cut (though only briefly), and the sobering reality of our constant drive for bigger/better set in and made us reprioritize things. We can no longer "Afford" our house in the city, so we're taking the opportunity to simplify. I can't begin to express how lucky I am to have found our new house from our friend, it's enabling us to live in an area that we otherwise wouldn't afford (Old Mission Peninsula is

AF, especially on land with water access like we have). But the house needs work and the timing was not the best, so we're making it work hell or high water.
Money can buy many things. Stuff, sure...but also freedom. Living significantly below our means has taken all the pressure we used to feel off work. Wife hasn't found a job yet, but that's OK because she's working her butt off (almost literally) on the move and getting the new house situated. It's not a big deal at all because we can more than afford it on my salary alone. Once we're in and settled, if I get forced back to the office, I can just quit and do whatever basic job I can find and still make the mortgage. But more likely, I'll maintain my job and sock as much money away as I can for the ultimate freedom of no longer being tied to the man.