Same shit in the animal kingdom, a robin will find as much food for its chicks as it can, and teach them how to fly with the skill sets that it has available to it, and provide a safe nest and warmth at night. Some do better then others at these tasks. The birds with plenty of the above grow up and thrive. So it isn't "privilege" so much as survival in my opinion.[user not found] wrote: ↑Wed Sep 09, 2020 10:05 amThis this this. If my kids show they deserve it (which is via hard work and good attitudes) I'm going to give them every single advantage I can give them. If they don't show me that they deserve it then I need to examine how I'm parenting and get us all into therapy.Tarspin wrote: ↑Wed Sep 09, 2020 10:00 am
Yeah man, I'm implimenting every advantage possible to give my kids the tools that they need to self-sufficient and successful. If it helps them to have a mode of transportation to get to a job then they can have it, or at least get part of it subsided, otherwise they are stuck in a catch 22: need car to keep job, need job to pay for car.
Listen, this isn't fair, but the world isn't fair. As long as the world is organized in the way it is, I'm certainly going to play the game.
You make a great point about owning your child's attitude. I'm owning my kids attitude from day one and have taken a lot of proactive steps to set them on a decent course, if I fail it is my issue. There are so many things that I still need to work on, including my laziness in some aspects of parenting, like reprimanding poor behavior or not proactively educating them in times when my mental or emotional tank is low.
Once they are adults they will own their own successes and failures, and I'm not sure what age that will be but will gauge it on their mental readiness to "fly" or whatever metaphor suits. At that point I'll take a more passive approach and offer wisdom when it is requested, and encouragement as I feel people need even as adults. Hopefully we will be friends at that time.